I have been re-reading an old favorite parenting resource by Dr.'s Henry Cloud & John Townsend called Raising Great Kids (co. 1999). I love this book because it is full of practical wisdom and advice - nothing dogmatic - just a very down to earth guide of "Parenting with Grace & Truth". As with this book, I find most of what is taught in leadership training, parenting or professional enrichment classes can be applied across the board in various facets of life.
The current chapter I am reading, "Living in an Imperfect World: Reality", is so applicable to the world of real estate today, I wanted to share a section:
"Not only will your children frustrate themselves and be frustrated by others, but the world will frustrate them as well. Birthday parties will get rained out. Pets will die. Toys will break and bicycles will get stolen. In short, they will experience the lost ideal of not living in Eden. They will have many days in which very frustrating things will happen.
But so do all the happy people in the world. Your job is to help your children develop the character that will enable them to be happy in a world that daily gives them opportunity to be miserable" (Cloud & Townsend, PP. 110-111)
Why is this relevent now, in the current real estate market? Well,many homeowners are still, as they say, "upside down" in their mortgage. That is a bad thing and it can be a miserable fact for a hard working person. Some people I have consulted with bought at the height of the market (unbeknownst to them) and are now working double shifts to keep up -- or face a short sale. It can be easy to go to the place of frustration, fear, anxiety and hopelessness. There are also potential homeowners wondering if they should buy now -- "will the market crash again?", "will I lose my job?", "what will the payment do to my entertainment/college/preschool fund?"
It is my job to boost and maintain consumer confidence in the housing sector - and confidence is what makes a sale. When I instill confidence in my client and reinforce their ability to make wise choices, they feel ready to either sell their house, or move forward on a purchase. Much of this confidence happens in steps, just a child learns to trust the world, people have to learn to trust their REALTOR (R). And therein lies my comparison of this parenting resource to being a REALTOR (R) in the southern California housing market: I am here to help homeowners and potential homeowners navigate the confusion and sometimes frustration of the housing market and I strive to always do so with grace and truth. As the Dr,'s Cloud & Townsend write, "Only the internalized character of grace and truth can help children negotiate lifes ups and down successfully. And that character can only come from a loving but truthful parent (or REALTOR!) who forces them to deal with reality, accept themselves and others, and continue on to pursue their ideals" ( P.112). As always, if you have any questions, or know someone who is looking to buy or sell, please send them my way! I promise to take good care of them (and be honest at the same time)!
